Lessons Learned by working together

Wow, you learn so much in 20 years, so many lessons learned , I look back and I’m like, oh, my word. And so it’s been 20 years now. Well, I don’t know exactly when, but ish. All right. And, you know, we were talking to different people recently about what we’ve done in business and kind of like the evolution and how we kind of do things right. And some of the things that help us the most. So I don’t want to go over like all the different iterations of it. But I have something in particular that I think we could share that whenever we talk about it, people are always, well, not always, but like anyway is that people are like, oh, that’s that’s interesting. And what we tend to do and we’ll say that a lot. And that’s what are you doing, Mike? So we have weekly meetings as a as a couple. OK. And I think if we share this and give some information and logic on how, what and why, then it will help. And so in sharing just a piece of us, this is this tends to be when we’re operating at our best, we’re following this the best. OK, so kind of talk about it for just a little bit.

Well, you know, one thing I have learned over 20 years of working with you is that I truly appreciate it. I I appreciate what we have and the ability to do that because I think it’s unusual and not common. And I think a lot of people would struggle with  that. Now, are there days that, you know.
Maybe I get on my nerves, I’m sure I do sometimes, or vice versa, for sure. Guaranteed.
But now it’s it’s it’s really amazing and I just can’t explain it enough the opportunity that we have together. So on that and many lessons learned.

Home Office

Yes. So what we decided is, you know, we home office, we work from home, we run a business and we also have a family and run a household. So how do we balance all of that and keep, you know, keep them from  crossing over to one another and just becoming extremely stressed? Because you can see how things you know, how can we be efficient with work if we’re talking about personal things all day? Right. So what we decided to do a long, long time ago, years ago, is we dedicate Sundays basically to us. And we you know, we take that time and we have weekly meetings. So if something comes up during the week, well, you know, we have a sheet and we’ll write it on their right, our topics on there. And then we talk about them on one particular day of the week, typically Sundays. That way we can release it from our mind. Put it on there. No, we’re going to deal with it at some point and get on with our our important business that we have. And it’s not bogging you down, because to me, this is how I work. If I have something on my mind, it eats away at me until I can get it solved or dealt with. So it’s a way for me to release it and know that. OK, we’re going to pause for now. I can continue on being productive and we’ll talk about it at a later time.

Yeah, so that really helps. And because we can’t deal with consistent kind of interruptions throughout our day. So if every time I had something that came up that I wanted to speak with her about and I walked in and she’s in a meeting or whatever, and I’m like, hey, I just need like two minutes, right? Every time you do that, it slows down with the other person is doing so. The concept is I implicitly trust Shana every day to make all of these decisions and she trusts me. And when we go through our normal week, there are thousands of decisions that are made every day. Right. And then occasionally, maybe once a day, there’s one that goes to that rises to the importance level that we want to say like, oh, OK, hang on, let’s actually get some input from somebody else on this one.

Let’s see what Shana thinks about it. So I’ll take that item and I’ll put it on our list for Sunday and I’ll say, hey, I’ll meet with Sean on that one on Sunday. So maybe it’s a certain number. Maybe it’s, you know, you just kind of know it when you see it or hear it. Right. And it’s well, we’ll talk about that on Sunday. So we put it there and what it’s done, whether it’s business or personal. Right. Then we kind of know what it is. So we have three boys and each of them is definitely very unique and different. And when you parent when we’ve parented, part of the thing that we’ve done is at different times, we could spend so much time going back and forth and saying, do you know what your son just did? Or like, you know, and it could be good or bad, whatever that happens to be.

And it would be all day that we could talk about things like that as it’s kind of coming back. Right. But I trust Sean to deal with everything that’s kind of going on, whether it’s business or personal and, you know, the same thing. So unless it rises to this importance level. Yeah. Then then just kind of like you handle it. Yeah. And let’s not worry about it. And then when it gets to Sunday, then we’ll discuss it. So we on Sundays, if we kind of went through our meeting and discussed most of it, what it would normally be is, you know, the location in the summer. We like to take a couple of minutes and go for a walk in the morning and go maybe somewhere and have a coffee or sit

down. It could be like a donut shop or a coffee shop or a breakfast shop or something like that. Right. So we try to be a little active and go do something and then we’ll sit down. And when we get there, we’ll kind of like to bring some notes or whatever. Right now we’ve technology upgraded it to Zoho writer. So we put the notes in there.

So we  have all kind of tracked so we can speak on them at that point. Shana brings her iPad, which is really cool, and she writes on it and puts notes there. I normally bring one piece of paper and make like three notes and just write like three words and then kind of like that. Yeah. So I just remember it and do it or forget it and it’s not important enough. So but during that meeting, we’ll talk about all the things, whether it’s business and we’ll hit like maybe three or four or five business topics and they could be short, medium or long term.

And then we’ll talk about things that are personal. So we’ll go through each  of the kids and we’ll kind of talk about them for a little bit and whatever that happens to be, then we’ll talk about money. And at different times we’ll take out and I’ll bring like the complete spreadsheet. Like, whatever that is, and I’ll give her balances on, you know, like on all the different accounts, so we’ll be like, hey, this is what happened, here’s how it went, like, here’s what it is. And when you start to make financial decisions -more lessons learned- we’ll know kind of where those things like I’m, you know, different families do things differently for money. Some people have like private accounts where they can, like, spend money on the side. We just have accounts. And it’s not that I don’t even know.

I don’t think we have anything that the other doesn’t know. I don’t know personally. I don’t think that’s healthy. Maybe some people think it is healthy to be able to do what you want, but we’ve never been like it. The people that I don’t know, I think we both value how hard we work and  money and we trust one another. We’re both pretty frugal. So if one wants to spend a little bit more on something, it’s like, OK, you should.

Yeah, and it’s weird. I don’t even I have no idea like how much hair and nails or like those things, like even gas. You don’t pay attention. Oh I don’t know, I mean enough attention to it because I’m just like whatever just happens. Right. So it’s not a kind of a thing to worry about that comes over time that you have certain  things. Right. And so we’ve just kind of learned that. But that helps us mentally keep those things straight. Yeah. And the weekly meeting that we have is extremely important and it allows us to kind of coordinator week and everything else. So I kind of highly recommend that and just trust in the other person or you shouldn’t be with them if you don’t. So that’s actually about right.

Making Business

Business is tough. Right. And things come up all the time. You can’t have a I mean, you have a plan for a day and it’s going to get hijacked by something else. I mean, it just does.

So, you know, you have to have a plan. And the most important thing, I think, is your relationship. And fortunately, we work together. So it makes it a little bit easier. But, you know, you have to you have to also know that you have to spend that time together, you know, and balance and.

And try to keep things your business and personal life separate, and it’s also difficult to with our business to share just a little bit more. A lot of the things that I do on a daily basis have evolved into being kind of expenses. Right. And working on things that generate more business in the future or solve a system or a process problem. And that might not show up today. The things that Sean is doing are actually bringing in money today, so it evolves into this weird thing that like mix and expense structure. And Shana is like an income structure. And but the income grows from the things that we work on in the past or have invested in.

So it’s that talking about it and understanding what’s happening, then it makes you feel better when you see, you know, the expenses going out at what’s happening, that the income goes up.

So anyways, we try to invest a long term so that it makes sense and it helps us out and take advantage of the lessons we’ve learned. And we were investing from, you know, from  our pocketbooks. So, like, you see these things and when you see an improvement or enhancement that feels like real dollars. So like today’s set up to have this live is an expense. And all the camera equipment and what goes into it is definitely an expense. What we’re doing is for very specific reasons. And so we hope that you guys will enjoy it. Maybe a thumbs up if you’re totally into the new format of TNT and and you like that, you know.

So anyway, just the more we kind of share, we hope that helps you, whether it’s in your personal life, which affects your business, whether this business and you can sort that out and it makes it just it all has an effect. And you have to kind of work on each avenue of your life, whether it is business, whether it is personal, whether it is spiritual, emotional, like, you know, relationship, whatever those things are, you have to work on each one of them self and not everything’s perfect every day.

So anyway, it’s at the end of the day, 20 years, the weekly meeting is actually super important and that’ll lead to a lot of work to it. Yes. Yeah, no, I do. Because we get to talk about things at different levels. Yeah. Kind of on our own. We depend on kind of like level one ish things for ourselves. Right. And we’re all good. And then when, when we get to like higher level stuff, it is exciting because normally it’s about a change, like, oh, let’s do this. So the discussion points that we talk about are kind of interesting and kind of cool. In conclusion, lots of lessons learned all this years by working together.

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